Several months ago, Netflix Indonesia released Ali and Ratu Ratu Queens. A movie about Ali searching for his mother, Mia, left him when he was five. Initially believing that Mia had passed away, Ali finds letters, postcards, and flight tickets for Ali to visit Mia in New York, which his father had hid from him. Ali reveals his desire to search for his mother in New York, to which his family was skeptical.
Through this movie, there are several lessons that we could take and eventually practice to have a better life.
1. Going out of your comfort zone
You've probably heard the phrase "move out of your comfort zone," but what precisely is a "comfort zone,” and why do we willingly stay inside it even though we know it's not the ideal place for us to be?
Humans, like ships, were not meant for the constraints of the safe harbor. We got to sail the vast expanses of the oceans, to push the limits of what we are capable of, and to learn that we indeed do have the ability to reach places we didn't even realize we were capable of achieving. What game am I playing in life is a great question to ask; are you playing to win or lose?
Personal growth is one of the advantages of stepping outside of your comfort zone. Development is one of the six basic human needs that we all require on some level. The sole difference between high achievers and the rest is that they spend more time in the growth zone, satisfying this demand. One of the skills they learn to master in life is being comfortably uncomfortable and determining to succeed.
2. Pursuing your dreams
Everyone always says, "Follow your dreams!" But not everyone does it.
Life gets in the way, bills pile up, and we sometimes have to do jobs we don't want to do to get by. There are a variety of reasons to follow your ambitions, defy convention, and live the life you've always want to pursue. Why should you pursue your dreams? Because it is your dreams that can help you get through even the most trying times. If you are struggling, your dreams are your reason to keep going.
Dreams are why you wake up in the morning and try again; They are what makes your entire life worth living.
Without our dreams, we are nothing.
3. Appreciate things
Life moves at a breakneck pace. You might miss it if you don't take a few moments to look around. It's all too easy to get caught up in the fast lane and forget to stop and appreciate what you already have. A grateful life is a life well-lived. Here are eight strategies to practice appreciation in your daily life to assist you on your thankfulness journey.
Gratitude does not have to always be for life's "major" events. The habit of being grateful begins with appreciating all of life's blessings and realizing that there is nothing too small to be thankful for.
Even if it is as simple as appreciating the clear weather or how quickly your mailman delivered your mail last Friday, don't leave anything out when practicing your gratitude.
4. Learning to let things go
"To let go does not mean to get rid. To let go means to let be. When we let go with compassion, things come and go on their own." –Jack Kornfield.
Holding on to your pain isn't going to help you. Reliving the past does not change it, and yearning for things to be different does not make them so. In some circumstances, especially when dealing with the past, all you can do is accept and then let go of whatever it is you're holding on to.
Everything shifts in this manner. Even if it feels impossible, you must let go of what is causing you pain. Holding on to the past will prevent you from developing a strong sense of self.
Painful feelings, strangely enough, can be soothing, especially if they're all you've ever known. Because they believe such sensations are a part of their identity, some people have difficulty letting go of their grief or other negative emotions from the past. They may not know who they are without their suffering in certain aspects. They are unable to let go as a result of this.
If you've seen the movies (or not), practice this learning and have a better life. If you would like to learn more advice for any self-development topics, you could also consult with us! Also, follow us at Instagram @baikgp and @ayureadypodcast for more information and extra insights!